So you’re new to The online dating game and you’re finding writing an effective dating profile more complicated than you expected. You are trying to master the art of showing your confidence without showing off. You want to indicate your core personality traits while maintaining an air of mystery. And you want to show yourself off in an attractive and flirtatious way without appearing sassy. If that’s the case for you, EliteSingles is here to help! We’ve compiled an online dating profile tips guide to help you write a dating profile that effectively represents you.
Relationship coach Sandy Weiner suggests: ‘If you work hard to improve your profile, you’ll be in the top 10 percent of all online daters. You will definitely stand out from the crowd.’ So take the time to complete your profile effectively. To make the process easier for you, we asked some real members of EliteSingles what they look for in a profile: what is attractive in a character description and what details are not impressive and therefore will be immediately forgotten. Below is our step-by-step guide on how to write a dating profile: the do’s and don’ts to help you reap online dating success.
It’s about your attitude
You MUST write your dating profile when you are in a good mood
According to Judith Orloff’s article on ‘Attracting Positive Relationships’ on Psychology Today, ‘The more positive energy we put out, the more we receive. The same goes for negativity. It works like this: love attracts love. Bad mood attracts bad mood. Passion attracts passion. Rage attracts rage. A confident and optimistic person exudes charm that instantly makes them more desirable. This is worth considering when writing your dating profile. A good profile is upbeat and fully completed with no blank spaces or one-word answers. To make your dating profile desirable and memorable, show people what you are passionate about and what your interests are.
Tip: Another helpful tip for your online dating profile is to keep it updated with new and interesting content from your life. Suppose you have recently been on an interesting trip or tried a new activity that you really liked, add it to your profile; you never know, you might have this in common with a potential new partner.
DO NOT use sexual innuendos
Our survey of EliteSingles members on online dating profiles revealed that the biggest turnoff, according to members from countries around the world, is sexual innuendo. 23 percent of members concluded that it is the number one dating profile no-no, followed by negativity (22 percent) and insufficient description (21 percent). So when you sit down to write your profile, keep this in mind. Even if you think something is funny and have a light intention, it will not be well received. YourChristianDate.Com
Take a good profile picture
Upload a picture
A staggering 52 percent of members surveyed said they wouldn’t even open a profile without a profile photo. Relationship coach Sam Owen explains, “We get a sense of a person’s personality by looking at a picture of him, how he’s posed, his facial expression, the clothes he’s wearing and much more. If you give people those signals, they feel like they can make a more informed decision about whether they should go after you or not.”
Ultimately, people want to be able to engage with you online. They want to get a sense of what you are like as a person and choosing to remain anonymous is essentially alienating yourself from potential matches. The results also showed that members from different countries unanimously admitted that they look at a profile picture more closely on a dating profile. So take the time and effort to make sure your photo correctly represents you.
Tip: A full length head and shoulders profile picture and ideally an action shot are a great way to add variety to your profile. A picture of you participating in a sporting activity or hobby is a great icebreaker and is likely to attract the attention of like-minded potential partners. Colour choice can also influence how your images are perceived, as psychologists at the University of Rochester in New York found that men are more attracted to women who wear red.
DO NOT fall into the traps of the photos
While it’s important to include a photo in your online dating profile, you should be selective about the photos you upload. Use a recent photo (taken within the last year) that is a genuine representation of yourself. 80 percent of those surveyed said they would disapprove if their date turned out to be different from their dating profile. Resist the urge to use an old, flattering photo because it will only cause you problems in the long run. According to members of EliteSingles, the worst common photography mistake is an image that is too revealing. 19 percent maintained that wearing sunglasses in a photo was impossible, followed by poorly purchased photos at 17 percent. So do it right: ask your friends or family to help you take a good photo. A good tip is to take a photo outdoors. natural light,
Be yourself
Show your true self
The secret to a good dating profile is to portray an authentic image of yourself; after all, the point of online dating is to find someone with whom you are truly compatible. Consider the factors that make you unique and list them on your dating profile. As Kimberly Eclipse suggests in her article on ‘Online Dating Profiles’ on Psychology Today, ‘Present yourself in an honest and authentic way, flaws and all. Whoever is attracted to that, is good for you. Whoever walks away probably wasn’t your type anyway. Avoid generic statements and clichés that you think people want to hear. Keep it truthful and you will attract the type of person you want to attract.
DO NOT tell white lies.
66 percent of those surveyed said they would not even consider a relationship with someone who embellished their features on their profile. While it can be tempting to sneak a couple of white lies into your profile, don’t! You’ll only be doing yourself a disservice. You need to give potential partners the opportunity to fall in love with your true self. The saying “honesty is the best policy” exists for a reason, not least because “it’s so much easier than expending the energy to pretend” (according to Rebekah Doweyko, psychologist and councilwoman). YourChristianDate
